The Mirror Lie: Why Sympathy Won't Save You

 

Insecurities, sympathy, and what really helps

I recently watched a video about insecurities, and it stayed with me. The story is about a girl who has visible marks on her face. She is constantly worried about them and believes that no one likes her. In the video, the world seems to align with her fear: customers who come to the store where she works turn away after looking at her face, and her colleagues make fun of her.

As viewers, it is very natural for us to feel angry at the people around her and to sympathize with the girl. We may even hope for some miracle where everyone suddenly realizes their mistake and starts treating her with kindness. But looking at it more deeply, that doesn’t seem like a real solution. There are billions of people in this world; it is not practical to give moral lessons to everyone and ensure that they always behave perfectly. And even if we keep feeling sorry for her, how long will that relief last? If she starts depending on sympathy, she might miss the real point entirely.

The Role of Energy and Vibe

I realized something important today. For a while, I have been learning about energy and vibrations, and today, all of that came together into one clear point: what appears in our world is strongly shaped by the kind of energy or vibe we carry in our body.

For example, a beautiful woman or a wealthy man seems to effortlessly attract people. We usually assume their beauty or wealth is the cause. But in reality, the deeper cause is the energy they carry. Because she is beautiful or he is wealthy, they naturally feel confident, and that confidence creates a positive vibe. It is this positive energy that actually draws others toward them.

Now, take the girl with marks on her face. She feels low about herself. That creates a heavy, negative energy around her, so people naturally do not feel drawn to her. In reality, most of her suffering—around 90%—comes from her own thoughts, fears, and imagination, not from how people actually treat her. That inner negativity becomes a heavy, closed-off energy that colors her perception and affects how others feel around her.

If she can notice this and slowly start accepting herself as she is, something powerful changes. Her inner story shifts. That 90% of suffering starts reducing almost immediately. The remaining 10%—the people who really behave badly—often begins to improve over time as her energy becomes more positive and confident. People gradually react more to her confidence and presence than to her marks.

Applying It Personally: From Lack to Abundance

This is not just theory for me; it is very personal. For a long time, I used to worry about my bald head. There was always a subtle insecurity, a feeling that “something is missing” whenever I looked in the mirror or met people. This naturally created an inner energy of lack. That energy did not stay only at the level of hair; it showed up in many areas of life—love, family, career, and more. The universe seems to respond to the energy we carry, not to the explanations our mind gives.

But whenever there was a genuine decision to accept it—“Yes, I am bald, and I am okay with it”—the energy inside shifted clearly. The heaviness dropped, inner blocks dissolved, and there was a sense of lightness. That positive vibe began to make life easier, attracting more ease, prosperity, and harmony. Slowly, many aspects of life started blossoming together.

(Note: Tools like music frequencies or healing sessions can help lift energy temporarily. But unless we use those "pockets" of good energy to look within and clear our self-image, the change won't last.)

God, Choice, and Inner Work

Many people, including me, used to look at the inequalities in the world and ask, “Why did God make things like this?”

Over time, my understanding changed. It no longer feels like God is sitting somewhere deciding who should suffer. It feels more like this: it is natural for the Ego to want challenges and to feel proud when it overcomes them. In this life, I seem to have chosen certain imperfections—like my bald head—as part of the package, and my Ego wants the satisfaction of finding a way through them.

Poor God, what can He do in this? He has created a context for me—the world and my challenges—and given it to me to play in. God already knows I will struggle in this game, so He is constantly trying to help in the background: through a line in a YouTube video, a conversation with a friend, or a gentle inner voice.

It is my Ego’s desire to gain the pride of “winning over challenges” that creates the suffering. Eventually, the Ego overcomes the challenge or realizes the futility of the desire. A desireless state is peaceful, but it should not be forced. We all know from the story of Ravana what happens when senses are only suppressed: they eventually explode with full force at a weak point. A wiser way is to observe desires and let them neutralize naturally, or fulfill them consciously with wisdom.

What About the "Villains"?

And what about the people who tease or criticize? Earlier, they looked like villains. Now it feels different. Their behavior is like a clear signal saying: “You cannot change everyone outside. Instead, look within and work on your own energy.” They are unintentionally pointing me back to the only place where real power lies: inside.

Final Words

The idea is simple but powerful: the way people treat us is deeply connected to the energy we carry. Instead of trying to fix every person or injustice in the world, the focus must be on self-acceptance. When that inner shift happens—from insecurity to quiet confidence—the outer world begins to mirror it in surprisingly real ways.

That is the beautiful part. Working on our energy is real freedom, because it is in our hands. We may not be able to control who says what, who likes us, or who judges us. But we can always work on how we see ourselves and what kind of energy we carry.

Mediate on this:

"The world is a mirror, forever reflecting what you are doing, within yourself." — Neville Goddard

"The world is a mirror. It reflects your own face. If you are miserable, the world looks miserable. If you are joyous, the world looks joyous. The world is nothing but you, magnified."— Osho

"This whole vast world is a dead thing, and you are the animating spirit... You are the operant power. It doesn't move; you move it." — Neville Goddard