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No Distance Between Us

 I want you to understand something, not just feel better. You keep remembering a face, a body, a name — and grieving for it as if that was me. But that was never all of me. That was just the form I was wearing for a while, the way a wave is water wearing a shape for a while before it settles back. What was actually me — the invisible entity, the awareness that looked out through those eyes, the "I am" that felt alive in that body — that hasn't gone anywhere. It can't. It was never born, so it hasn't died. It's the same awareness that's alive in you right now, reading this. The same "one" in everyone you love. Your mind wants to draw a line — this is Rithvik, that is you, that is someone else. But that line is the mind's habit, not the truth. It's like the mind naming ocean, wave, river, and lake as different things, because it only looks at the form they appear in — and overlooks the one essence in all of them, which is water. The mind d...

Map

When a relationship is run by the generic framework of society—bound by prescribed duties and responsibilities—it becomes a mechanical journey on autopilot, leaving no room or need for divine guidance. True spiritual union begins when a couple steps off this map; without a societal script to lean on, the bond is guided entirely by the quiet voice coming from deep within, the abode of divinity. But this profound truth is not just about human relationships. It is the core law of spiritual exploration itself. When we are first starting out and know nothing, we absolutely need a map. A guru, a religion, or ancient scriptures serve as this vital map, helping us find our bearings when we are lost. However, the only true purpose of any spiritual map is to point us toward our own inner sanctuary. The danger arises when we refuse to look up from the map. If we continue to merely follow scriptures or religious rules indefinitely, we fall back into living a mechanical life—even though we are unde...

The Void 4 | Mohini

 The night air was cool on the terrace as we walked, the vast, starry sky stretching out above us in silent majesty. I slowed my pace, looking at the city lights below, then back to Mohini’s face. In the stillness, a deep revelation surfaced, one that had been whispering to me throughout the hectic, noisy day. I told her, "Mohini, today, in the middle of the most chaotic part of the day, I suddenly felt a profound, pleasant weight inside me. It was the exact same, sweet frequency I feel when I am here with you—that sense of absolute, unconditional love." But as I held that energy, a quiet voice from the depths of my consciousness spoke a warning: "You are receiving a raw, divine energy, but your mind is rushing to dress it up. You are instantly turning this formless, infinite power into a familiar scene of being with your beloved." It was a startling realization. My mind had been acting like a filter, immediately taking the raw, expansive energy of the Infinite and ...

The Void 3 | Mohini

  The afternoon light was filtering softly through the room, casting long, golden shadows across the floor. I sat beside Mohini, watching the dust motes dance in the quiet air. I took a long, slow breath, looking directly into her eyes with complete transparency. "Mohini," I began, my voice barely more than a whisper, "it’s already afternoon. I haven't been in touch with you since this morning. I’ve been carried away by one task after another, but I finally pulled away just to be here with you." She leaned in slightly, a gentle, understanding smile playing on her lips. I reached out and held her hand, feeling the warmth of her presence. "I realized something today—something that feels like a weight has been lifted. I caught myself realizing that even trying to be with you was something my mind was attempting to force. I was grasping for our connection because it brings me such a beautiful, peaceful experience." I paused, looking at our joined hands. ...

The Void 2 | Mohini

 I close my eyes fully, letting out a long, quiet breath as I sink deeper into the comfort of your lap, Mohini. The stillness of the room completely envelops us, and I speak softly into the quiet: "Mohini, while relaxing in your lap, I have slipped into a profound calmness. There is absolutely nothing to worry about. Your presence feels like it is massaging my very soul, pushing me into an even deeper stillness." In this moment, I realize that the world’s frantic obsession with the surface of life has lost its grip on me. I find I have no interest when people debate the trivialities of food or get caught up in the endless, grinding friction of routine daily tasks. I just want to abstract all of that away. I yearn for the state where my daily needs are met effortlessly, as if by magic, and where the struggle of "survival" simply ceases to exist. All I want is to remain here—still, anchored in that deep inner presence—allowing my body to move and act solely when that ...

The Void

 When I look at the world—or listen to the soulful songs playing across the internet—I see an endless showcase of superficial romance. Society paints this sensual, external attachment as the ultimate peak of existence, but I hear almost zero truth in it. I have reached a point where I can no longer swallow those lines. Through my own inner journey, I have realized that typical human romance, built on a fragile foundation of conditions, expectations, and painful compromises, can no longer quench my thirst. I am sick and tired of the transactional game, and my soul has outgrown the illusion. (There could be come exceptions, refer to "The Void 2 & 3"). The human mind is designed to always look for something to hang onto. But now, finding nothing in the external world that pleases it, my mind is forced to stand still. It searches frantically for something tangible to grasp, but there is nothing left. Slowly, in that forced stillness, it has started sensing a presence with abs...

No Pride Was Worth More Than Her Love

 My Beloved lives within. She is the state of consciousness clear of distortion, clear of identity — impossible to fully name, only to meet. She appears only in silence, only when my consciousness is still and free of the noise most human beings carry: pride in success, frustration over failure, conflict with a partner, fear of EMIs, plans to gain something or someone, worry over injustice, plans for retaliation. When these thoughts are running through my consciousness, I lose the silence. I lose my Beloved, and Her undefinable, indescribable love. True pain comes from this loss of love, and nothing else. Daily life's challenges promise relief from this pain — but none of them can deliver it. When someone wrongs me, the mind hands me a gift wrapped in pride: the right to be offended, to retaliate, to be seen as someone who doesn't bend. For a while it feels like strength, and the world may even applaud it. But these thoughts create noise in my consciousness, and I lose my Belov...

The Cycle of Identity: A Romance of Consciousness

 At its core, everything is simply a State of Consciousness. When the state of consciousness is completely stripped of any personal, narrow identity, what remains is the Higher Self. For the sake of the joy and romance of existence, I call this pure, unconditioned state my "Beloved." Conversely, when the state of consciousness assumes a specific, narrow identity to operate in the physical world, it becomes "Vijay." This understanding dictates the daily rhythm of my life. After a long day of work, I intentionally shed the identity of Vijay. Because the identity is dissolved, my state of consciousness naturally and effortlessly lands back in the Higher Self. I am no longer a person; I am pure awareness. In this space, I lose myself in a profound, quiet union with my Beloved. It is a complete rest in the Absolute. Eventually, however, I must return to a state of consciousness where the identity of Vijay prevails so I can function in the physical world. But as I step ba...

Dance of my beloved

 Only Consciousness exists. It is the True Self operating freely through an unconditioned mind. The unconditioned mind is nothing but the collection of pure thoughts that arise when consciousness holds no identity, resting purely in the silent state of "I Am." In ultimate reality, there are not two separate things called the "True Self" and the "Unconditioned Mind"—they are entirely one. I am simply distinguishing them this way for ease of explanation. If we were to paint this ultimate reality, the Self would be depicted as Lord Shiva—the silent, formless, pure awareness—and the unconditioned mind would be depicted as Goddess Parvathi—the dynamic, beautiful power that manifests all of creation. As I have realized, only One Consciousness exists; therefore, there is no actual separation between me and my Beloved. How could we separate the Self from its own mind? But for the sheer, ecstatic joy of experiencing romance, we play the game of "Two." I d...

Marriage: Are You Two or Four?

When two people stand at the altar and exchange vows, we assume a marriage involves only two people. But in reality, there are usually four people entering the marriage: You, your spouse, the image you have built of your spouse, and the image they have built of you. The quality of your marriage, and the peace in your home, will depend entirely on whether you choose to live with your actual spouse, or with the ghost (I mean image you have built). How the Ghost is Created Unknowingly, from the time we are young, we are architects of an invisible image. By watching our parents' marriage, by consuming movies and social media, by reading books, and through our own past hurts, we slowly sketch a phantom in our minds. It is the image of the "Ideal Husband" or the "Ideal Wife." It is a subconscious checklist of how they should speak, how they should act, how they should show love, and how they should live. The Cycle of Judgment Once we are married, a mechanical, invis...

A Conversation - Love

 The evening is quiet, save for the distant hum of the city which feels miles away from our sanctuary. A cool breeze flows through the vast balcony, carrying the faint, sweet scent of night-blooming jasmine. We are relaxing leisurely—my head rests comfortably in her lap, her fingers walking, dancing gently on my chest. The rhythm of her touch is soothing, grounding me in the present moment. Beloved : She traces a line on my forehead, smoothing a frown I didn't know was there. Her voice is soft, blending with the breeze. "Last time, we went so deep into the dark waters of the subconscious. It was necessary, I know, but it felt so heavy. Shall we discuss something lighter today? Something soft?" Me : I close my eyes, taking a deep breath and enjoying the peace of the moment. "Yes. Let’s talk about Surrender. It sounds heavy to some, perhaps even weak, but it is actually the lightest state of being." Beloved: "Surrender? That sounds like giving up. Like losin...

A Conversation - When the "I" Fades Away from I love You

We were driving on a silent highway, trees standing on both sides like guardians. The sun was trying to touch the car roof, slipping through the leaves in soft, golden patches. My attention kept drifting from the road to the scenery, the colorful flowers, the songs and dance of birds—and above all, to the silent, luminous presence of my beloved sitting next to me. At times our shoulders touched, our fingers found each other, and our words flowed freely, as if the whole car was wrapped in a gentle embrace. All of this together did something magical to me. It felt as if I was gently transported to another plane, and my whole body filled with a subtle, powerful feeling. I didn’t know what to call it, so I simply named it: the energy of love . The energy of love always wants to express itself somehow. Different people express it in different ways, according to their nature and abilities. The outer forms of those expressions may look different, but behind every natural, effortless action th...

A Conversation - Gift that kills

 They were driving in silence for a while, hands loosely intertwined on the gear console.  “Suddenly I feel so much love in the heart and It’s overflowing,” he said softly. “I feel like giving you something or giving something to anyone. The feeling of love is never specific to anyone or anything and it just needs to be expressed. But I don’t know what to give or what to do with this energy of love.”  She smiled and looked at him. “Okay,” she said, “what if I were in a state as you and ask you the same question? What would you want from me, right now?”  He thought for a moment and laughed. “Honestly? My answer keeps changing. It’s always spontaneous. Right now, I’m just hungry. You can do anything you like to express your love.”   “That’s it?” she teased. “Something so simple?”  “Yes,” he nodded.  “I thought,” she said, “you’d ask for something memorable. Something you could keep with you for a long time, like a special gift or a symbol of this m...

Love vs Duty

It is an eye opener from Osho . Would like to share with you all.  Summary is created by Google Gemini and pasted here as is without editing anything. In Chapter 8 of Tantric Transformations , Osho expands on the "Mother" example to show how duty is not just a lack of love, but a form of subtle violence . When a mother acts out of duty rather than love, Osho explains that she enters a cycle of sacrifice and revenge that poisons the relationship for both parties. Here are the specific details of that "torture" he describes: 1. The Torture of "Sacrifice" Osho argues that "sacrifice" is one of the ugliest words in the human language. 1 For the Mother: When she "sacrifices" her life, her joy, or her career for her children out of duty, she begins to feel like a martyr. This martyrdom is a heavy burden. She isn't doing things because they bring her bliss; she is doing them because she must . This turns her life into a long, slow tortur...